What the debate over Kim Kardashian’s race says about the changing face of America

Published: Daily Dot (January 30, 2015)

America’s obsession with celebrities has a tendency to reveal the complex depths of our social and cultural prejudices. In the case of Kim Kardashian, one observation becomes very clear: Americans need to stop seeing race as a black-and-white issue, and on the Internet, people clearly have no idea what to do with her.

Kim Kardashian is not a woman of color she is Armenian = European = Caucasian not a minority #listen
— Brooke (@Brookii_Babii) December 22, 2014

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Be a Good Guy, Not a Nice Guy: A Lesson From History

Published: Good Men Project (January 29, 2015)

co-author: Liskula Cohen


Liskula Cohen and Matthew Rozsa discuss the difference between being a nice guy and being a good one.

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There is a difference between being a nice guy and being a good guy.

It’s easy to forget this, especially as the cliché that “nice guys finish last” is reaching a fever pitch among Men’s Rights Activists and self-proclaimed dating gurus. While usually intended as a complaint, however, critics often forget that there is a big difference between being “nice” and being “good.” Many of the men we admire most—and who are found extremely attractive by their partners—were known for being brilliant, opinionated, eccentric, vulgar … and yet, in their romantic relationships, incredibly kind, supportive, and loving.

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The Pros and Cons of Workaholism

Published: Good Men Project (January 24, 2015)

Being a workaholic has its advantages and disadvantages. Matt Rozsa takes a look at both.

I am a workaholic. And if you think that statement is anything to be proud of, you might be one too.

For a very long time, I secretly aspired to workaholism. If you threw a penny at me six years ago, I probably would have been struck while sitting alone in a basement apartment in Montclair, NJ, doing nothing but watching TV and reflecting on my screw-ups to pass the time. The Great Recession was at its worst, my personal depression wasn’t doing much better, and I was almost four years out of college without any meaningful work experiences to show for it.

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Don’t hate on critics of ‘American Sniper’ – criticize its racist hero

Published: Daily Dot (January 22, 2015), Republished on MediaREDEF (January 23, 2015), Salon (January 28, 2015)
This article is not about American Sniper. It is about Chris Kyle.

That’s an important distinction because, as American Sniper continues to break box office records, many of its fans are having trouble separating the flesh-and-blood human being from his celluloid counterpart. This was perhaps best embodied by Kid Rock’s response to the public criticisms of the film made by Seth Rogen and Michael Moore on Twitter. “F*** you Michael Moore, you’re a piece of s*** and your uncle would be ashamed of you,” he wrote. “Seth Rogen, your uncle probably molested you. I hope both of you catch a fist to the face soon. God bless you, Chris Kyle. Thank you for your service.”

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Thoughts on Jewish Identity in a Post-Charlie Hebdo World

Published: Good Men Project (January 22, 2015)

Matthew Rozsa explores the divided politics of the American Jewish community.

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Although I recall a great deal about the day I was nearly murdered, my conscious memory has suppressed the few minutes during which my head was held under water and my 6th grade classmates chanted “Drown the Jew!” Like a scratched DVD, it skips from the moment right before I was dunked to my immediate reaction after being pulled out of the water by my best friend’s older brother. Arms flailing violently, I landed indiscriminate blows on whoever was in arm’s reach—including the man who saved my life—before rushing ashore to gulp down air and vomit up mud.

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The 5 most important takeaways from Obama’s State of the Union address

Published: Daily Dot (January 21, 2015)

The gist of President Obama’s State of the Union speech can be found in one sentence: “The shadow of crisis has passed and the State of the Union is strong.”

This was not the address of a president whose party suffered a historic shellacking in the most recent set of midterm elections, but one whose approval rating has reached 50 percent and is emerging as a tough, creative statesman during his lame duck years. There was no attempt to apologize, no undercurrent of defensiveness, no sense of feeling beleaguered. As Obama enters the final quarter of his presidency, he has made it clear that he intends to position himself as a strong leader.

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Confessions of a Former Football Nerd

Published: Good Men Project (January 20, 2015)

Can sports fans be nerdy—in that good nerdy way? Matt Rozsa thinks so.

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I’m not sure if I can be considered a Green Bay Packers fan anymore.

It isn’t simply that I missed the NFC Conference championship on Sunday, which by all accounts was a spectacular game. It’s that I didn’t particularly care about missing it. Indeed, were it not for a well-timed email from my parents, I probably wouldn’t have known that it was on at all.

This never would have happened in the ‘90s. My fandom began when, as a six-year-old child, I awoke my parents in the early a.m. and proudly informed them that any team which had green in their name and their uniform deserved my support (green has always been my favorite color, so this logic seemed impeccable at the time). From that moment until I left for college, I followed the NFL season as diligently as millions of other red-blooded Americans. I memorized statistics, learned the intricacies of offensive and defensive strategy, and was swept up in the martial metaphors and weekly displays of athletic prowess.

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A Guide to Online Etiquette – and Basic Human Decency

Published: Good Men Project (January 20, 2015)

Matthew Rozsa offers a set of rules to give us a kinder, gentler Internet.

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My first experience with Internet flaming occurred more than a decade ago, when I was still an undergraduate at Bard College. The 2004 presidential election had just ended, and although I’d staunchly supported John Kerry (more on that in a moment), I’d openly disapproved of how many of my fellow student activists had blocked a four-way intersection in our host community following George W. Bush’s reelection. The night after my editorial was published, I received a very unexpected email from one of my professors:

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