3 Correctable Behaviors That Destroy Relationships

Published: Good Men Project (May 30, 2015)

Matthew Rozsa identifies 3 things to stop doing if you want to give your relationship—romantic, platonic, familiar, et cetera—a chance.

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Roughly four weeks ago, an ex-girlfriend of mine (with whom I had maintained a close friendship for the year-and-a-half since our break up) texted me that she wished I wasn’t always analyzing her. Considering that she knew full well that this tendency is a direct result of having Asperger’s Syndrome —  after all, a condition which makes it impossible to naturally read unspoken social cues requires those afflicted with it to intellectualize the human behavior they encounter — I responded as if her remarks were a deliberate insult, and as such immediately went on the attack.

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4 surprising reasons Rand Paul might be the liberal candidate you’re looking for

Published: Daily Dot (May 29, 2015)

At a time when the Republican Party has developed a reputation for voting and thinking in lockstep, it is worth noting that Kentucky’s Sen. Rand Paul has a surprisingly bipartisan appeal, which is becoming an important part of his growing presidential campaign. In the wake of an Internet-breaking filibuster on the Patriot Act, the outspoken National Security Agency critic has “reached out to African-American Republicans, spoke to a group of moderate Republicans, and held a news conference with House Democrats,” according to the Wall Street Journal.

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5 ways Republicans can reboot their brand in the Internet era

Published: Daily Dot (May 28, 2015)

In his new book, Taking a Stand: Moving Beyond Partisan Politics to Unite America, Republican presidential candidate Rand Paul declares that the GOP brand “sucks” and is “broken.” From those big declarations, he goes on to discuss his personal affinity for nature (describing himself as a “tree hugger”) and his ability to find common ground with racial minorities (mainly through his opposition to the growing prison-industrial complex).

All of this is well and good insofar as Paul’s political ambitions are concerned, but what relevance does it have to the GOP’s future in the digital era? Let’s look at some ways that the Republican Party can become relevant as the Baby Boomers hand off the future to a new generation of engaged voters.
1) It needs to stop being viewed as staunchly conservative

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Why We Should Stop Saying ‘Friend Zone’

Published: Good Men Project (May 28, 2015)

Matthew Rozsa discusses the term “friend zone” – and why we should get rid of it.

Since this article was inspired by a personal experience, it seems only fair that I open it with a confession:

I have complained about being “friend zoned.”

Thankfully it’s been years since I’ve done this, but I can’t say it hasn’t happened at all. Like most men, I have found the term awfully convenient when dealing with the sting of romantic rejection. If we get along so well as friends, I’d think to myself, then why is she unwilling to see me as anything more? It seemed brutally unfair, as if I was being penalized for opening up my heart to someone and forming a connection that (at least in my opinion) had been meaningful. Because the expression is so prevalent in our popular culture anyway, it seemed like a valid way of expressing my frustration.

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Why Rand Paul can win

Published: Daily Dot (May 27, 2015)

While Rand Paul’s name often appears on lists of leading Republican presidential nominees, his well-known libertarian streak is often cited as a prime reason why he most likely won’t be nominated. His National Security Agency opposition might make him popular on the Internet, but he’s the definition of a wild card.

Make no mistake about it: If history serves as a reliable precedent, the nomination won’t go to Paul. Indeed, the last non-establishment candidate to head the Republican national ticket was Barry Goldwater, whose upset over Nelson Rockefeller occurred more than 50 years ago (in the 1964 election). That said, there is a plausible path to victory that lies ahead for Paul, and it is worth exploring.

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The Role of Men in the 2016 Presidential Election

Published: Good Men Project (May 26, 2015)

The chances are pretty good that women’s issues will be front-and-center in the 2016 presidential election… and we may even have a female candidate!

From the moment Barack Obama defeated Mitt Romney in the 2012 presidential elections, polls have consistently ranked Hillary Clinton at the top of potential Democratic presidential candidates for 2016. Indeed, even if she wasn’t in the race, Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-MA) has also placed highly among possible contenders (even though she has disavowed any candidacy next year). Beyond that, with the success of the Democrats’ focus on a so-called “war on women” during the last few elections and the rise of cyberfeminism as an exciting new front in the women’s rights movement, it is clear that women’s issues are going to be front-and-center in the upcoming national political contest.

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The one reason you should be watching Fox News

Published: Daily Dot (May 22, 2015)

For a while, it didn’t seem like anyone who wasn’t a card-carrying member of the GOP had a voice on Fox News, the network that is “fair and balanced,” so long as you agree with Rupert Murdoch. A 2012 survey by the Pew Research Center found that 60 percent of Fox News viewers were self-described conservatives, compared to 23 percent who identified as moderates and 10 percent who claimed to be liberal (the same figures ran 32-30-30 for CNN and 32-23-36 for MSNBC).

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“David Letterman, Jimmy Kimmel, and the Importance of Personal Heroes

Published: Good Men Project (May 21, 2015)

When Jimmy Kimmel got choked up on Tuesday as he discussed David Letterman’s impending departure from the air, he demonstrated an important fact:

Everyone needs a hero.

That’s a corny thing to say (or write), especially in an era as oversaturated with scandal as our own. Nary a celebrity or public figure has managed to avoid being tarnished by some sort of unflattering revelation. Our sports stars are regularly caught cheating, our political leaders are bought and sold by wealthy interest groups, and our news stories are filled with unflattering revelations about famous people making bigoted comments, running afoul of the law, or being unfaithful to their spouses; even Letterman had a sex scandal of his own back in 2009, which he survived by shrewdly owning up to his mistakes. Even our superheroes are becoming dark and gritty, with the most recent cinematic incarnation of Superman indifferently racking up hundreds of thousands of innocent casualties.

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